It can be difficult to help someone you know who you think may be abused
by a partner.
Try to encourage them to talk, thus reducing their isolation. You don’t
need to know all the details or have all the answers.
They need to know they can trust you and it is important not to try to
force them to do anything they are not ready or able to do at any stage,
such as leave.
Support them in whatever decision they make about the relationship even
if you think it is not the best course of action. You may not understand
why they have to stay, but don’t give up on them, you may be the
only other person who knows about the abuse.
Make sure they know they are not alone, that the abuse is wrong and they
are not to blame. Offer positive feedback, and try to increase their confidence
and self esteem, this will help them to make more objective decisions
about their future.
Remember, don’t compromise your safety or theirs, always talk in
a safe environment when you know the abuser is not around. Don’t
leave information about domestic abuse or phone numbers around for the
abuser to find.
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